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Thank you...my family are telling me not to read this site as it will depress me ...I told them it's just the opposite it's giving me strength to continue knowing I'm not alone plus having the TTATT revealed! !
Lost and adrift
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Hello
by Lost and adrift in.just plucking up the courage to introduce myself....living in ireland but from the uk originally.
..drifted away due to depression (from all things truth related lol and bereavements and my m.s husband cheating on me and leaving !!
) few years ago but they recently hunted me down (they contacted me the day my other half was diagnosed with cancer!
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The height of evil is the following and yet at the time I was IN and didn't see it...
A family member who was df lost a child
As the parents were in good standing as in father was an elder a lot of jws went to child's funeral.
not one witness approached the mother to offer condolences etc...in fact they pointedly shunned and stared at the distraught mother...now who goes to funerals unless it's to comfort the bereaved? ?? Only sicko people
Is this just a one off...no when my step father died (an elder ) and the family were at the kh the family member who was also at the funeral was openly pointed out to anyone who wasn't aware they were df and advised to shun! At the funeral...she was so upset she left
Now I'm df I wonder if I will even be allowed at mums funeral as she has not spoke to me since I was df..and if I do go I will get the same treatment so what's the point....I'd only be distressing the rest of the family who are not in truth but not df
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Let's Consolidate World Branch Layoff Threads - Oct 2015
by TheListener inthere has been many threads from various posters around the world about recent bethel layoffs.. so far i remember threads about:.
south africa.
united states.
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Wow! I can't even imagine it ...pinch me am I dreaming. ...?
Of course the congregations they get attached to will be told how blessed they are to be graced with ex bethelites and be forced to support them this shifting the guilt and blame away from the hatchet men at the top who kicked them out on their ear if these poor folks starve lol
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The jw.org billions
by Gorbatchov in.
it is still strange, that an organization, lead by a group of old timers, is gaining billions at the moment, without giving any transparency and accountancy feedback, because these men "trust each other", and come away with that.. they got the property investment by the use of cohi associates, and deposit their liquid assets at the caymans.. it is clear: the real power behind the jw.org facade is securing his future.. don't get me wrong, i'm not insane, but more and more i got this strong gut feeling that some governmental organization has the real power.. gorby.
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Let's hope that in 2016, the U.K. Charities Commission Enquiry publicly exposes the Org's British "skeletons in the cupboard
The Searcher ...do u think enough skeletons will have the courage to come forward though?
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What did being a JW teach you?
by punkofnice inthese are some of the things the wbt$ 'taught' me:.
dishonesty is fine if it's to trick people into joining the cult.. if your spouse stops believeing, the best thing you can do is break up the family.. the laws of the governing body overrule any other laws...or else!.
my friends are conditional.. avoid loving people, they'll only let you down or get df'd.. unintelligent dumbos are better than intelligent ones if the dumbos are elders or above.. hate is better than love.. i am not good enough and god will probably enjoy killing me.. demons will appear in my room at night.. ignore practicallity if being practical or loving prevents the leaders getting money or praise.. god hates.
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Ahh rubadub u cracked me up....the pioneer moonwalk....reminded me of the persistently 'not homes' we used to work constantly to get our time in so we could chat in peace because they were not home ....except one time after about 3 months of standing on this doorstep daily some irate home owner came out ranting at us....he was a shift worker trying to sleep....every day we woke him up lol
And then I read your bio....cried laughing about ur burt problem
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Watchtowers policy of shunning our own close relatives
by Truthexplorer inhaving looked over the february' 2016 wt study article ' learn from jehovah's loyal servants' and meditating on the 'advice' from the fds aka gb regarding the shunning of our own close relatives if they have been disfellowshipped.
the example in par 7 highlighting how a woman called anne shuns her own mother for 'as she says' cutting herself off from jehovah.
i can't help but wonder how audacious and wreckless watchtower is in writing this stuff.
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Truthexplorer
Thanks for the advice. ..I've tried reasoning with her she says she is doing it to please jehovah! !!
I don't know what brainwashing program they have out her thru in the last few years but when she lived at home with me she was normal and balanced and we supported her beliefs and made sure she got to meetings even tho we were not going any more ( we as in her father and myself even though we divorceed and he was eventually df ....and she stayed with him weekends etc at this time )
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The story of my exit
by mrsObfuscate ini have been lurking here for about 6 months, and being the last day of the year, and ready to start the new one afresh, i want to share the story of our exit from the org.
i have found the personal experiences of others of immeasurable value, (and its been a while since a good exit story has been posted) that i hope this can be of benefit to at least someone.. .
my mother became a jehovahs witness when i was about 9 or 10. i remember initially hating all of the new sanctions put on our lives (no birthdays and christmas anymore) but for some reason i soon after joined her in attending the meetings and eventually got baptized at the age of 14. my staunch catholic father converted a couple of years later.
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Welcome and thank you for sharing your story....I completely feel for what you went through trying to stay 'faithful' in desperate circumstances. It echos some of my own experience of the treatment and lack of care when my min serv husband left me ....and the crap that people spouted
In my congregation there had been more than 1 accusation of abuse....over many years the same brother was accused by different sisters but of course it was covered up and the congregation never informed. ....it was only when this brother gave me cause for concern around my 9yr old daughter that the whispers reached my ears via other concerned mothers.....I was raging to find out the elders had put our children at risk and then I heard off more brothers in cong had been accused and it covered over. ..and that was before I heard about the worldwide scandal of cover ups! That knocked my faith big time and on top of that when my cheating husband left all I heard was
ohh we miss him such a good brother you must have done something for him to leave. ..
'Just because he's clubbing and with women doesn't mean he's been unfaithful. ..he's still ur husbsnd and deserves ur respect '
We as elders can't get involved unless he confesses to sin....
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Our friends didn't want my company as a single mother having to tag along with other couples...I think they were worried I was sex starved and pounce on their husbands haha
The single sisters were older ones who were nice but boring to put it nicely. ...only so much spiritual conversation one can tolerate ...I was only 35 not 75!
The teenagers would invite my daughter out but they didn't want a mother in tow...so most of time I was left very lonely after suddenly having my life turned upside down. ..
If I went on the field service and helped others more I wouldn't be depressed and I'd trust in jehovah more to support me thru this nightmare. ..my child was ill by the way I forgot to mention so meeting and field service were minimum due to circumstances beyond my control but still this was their helpful advice !!! .My stepfather died suddenly and in traumatic around circumstances around this time and I didn't much sympathy. ..One sister even said to me...well he wasn't even ur real father! Gradually over a few years the ones I was closest to in the truth stopped attending for various reasons but mostly due to their own experiences of bad treatment. ..not only did I miss them but when I looked around the cong the exemplary witnesses that were left and I was supposed to emulate were a group of the most narrow minded unpleasant judgemental humans I had ever met...bar a few genuine ones I still miss....
After year's of struggling my own feelings of worthlessness and despair I decided enough was enough of this mentally abusive crowd and stopped going!
I don't think any one noticed my absence until !after 7 years of being alone I met my fiance. ..the elders warned me he was an evil worldly person and would have evil secrets and might even be unfaithful. ...
I had to laugh at them for this...I said...what like the time I married a regular pioneer who had a secret porn addiction and is now sleeping around. ...end of that conversation
I moved away as my friends ignoring me was very painful but I knew it would happen
I'm trying to repair the damage but this df shit is a whole new low
I never thought my child would cut off her parents that helped her through her illness
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Watchtowers policy of shunning our own close relatives
by Truthexplorer inhaving looked over the february' 2016 wt study article ' learn from jehovah's loyal servants' and meditating on the 'advice' from the fds aka gb regarding the shunning of our own close relatives if they have been disfellowshipped.
the example in par 7 highlighting how a woman called anne shuns her own mother for 'as she says' cutting herself off from jehovah.
i can't help but wonder how audacious and wreckless watchtower is in writing this stuff.
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This latest WT article has my heart broken as I feel it is the main reason my daughter has cut me off...I tried ringing her she switched off her phone....we used to chat everyday nearly before I was df....and I've been inactive for 5 years but that didn't stop them. ....it's pure emotional blackmail -
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Let's Consolidate World Branch Layoff Threads - Oct 2015
by TheListener inthere has been many threads from various posters around the world about recent bethel layoffs.. so far i remember threads about:.
south africa.
united states.
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- Has there been any update on how many were kicked out of the British Branch?
- I'm still shocked they shut the Irish branch. ...I wonder if there's anyone left from Ireland in the British branch. ....smacks of political conspiracy lol....
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Writing my Disassociation letter
by Bebopin intoday i am working on writing my disassociation letter.
i successfully faded a year ago.
but i feel like i can't keep looking over my shoulder anymore i just need to be completely rid of this cult.. any suggestions on letter and it's content?.
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Lost and adrift
I wouldn't write anythin cos your family will shun you ...do NOT give them the power over you !
They must obey the mother ship at all times. ...